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Q My boyfriend earns a lot more than me?
My boyfriend thinks I should pay half on our dates, but he earns twice as much...Am I being unreasonable, to want to be treated to a night out now and then or to ask him to contribute more to the rent on our flat? I don't like to make a fuss, or sound like I'm moaning, but it is causing friction between us...
A Mrs Robinson says...
Hi Sara, the old phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" comes to mind here! Your other half's rigid approach to his pennies is unlikely to change. Fellas seem to be born either generous or tight and if he's had money worries in the past, or relationships that have cost him emotionally and financially, he will be wary of making the same mistakes again. You don't say if he has the upkeep of a car to pay for. If he is responsible for all outgoings associated with keeping a motor on the road for the two of you; then splitting other expenses between you, doesn't sound quite as unreasonable. Weigh up the pros and cons, being careful with money could mean he's a dependable sort, not prone to gambling. However, if you're looking for someone who buys you a gift, just because he thought you'd like it... then you may have to call 'time' on your current relationship, before it costs you more than money!